Monday, March 16, 2009

Full of win!

I just played in my first Poker tournament. It was held at Feeney's house (I have photos of them on the blog).

I drank my first two drinks WAY too fast and was barely awake at the table (why does alcohol put me to sleep!!??) and fumbled my way through. There were 16 of us to start! I have never played poker before tonight except for a quick run down last night with Kyle.

I was told at one point to go downstairs to the winners table! YAY winners table.

There were 7 of us and I apparently beat out 3 of them. When we were down to four I was far more sober again an asked to leave the game. Your not allowed to do that so I went all in(that means you bet ALL of your chips) and kept winning which was not only annoying for me but for the others as well!

So I came 4th and got to go back up stairs and join the party. I figured at that stage the other three people playing were all very serious about poker and I wouldn't stand a chance and could either bow out as quickly as possible or face a slow death. I choose to make it as quick and painless as I could and stop wasting their time!

Besides there was the most awesomest cake ever! Some had made Feeney a TANK cake!!!!

I had a lot of fun though, I want to play poker again!!!!

My love of puzzles!

I love puzzles, I'm sure I have mentioned that before.

But do you really understand JUST how much I love piecing them together?

Not only do I have a fairly rounded personal collection of puzzles, but I complete a puzzle every single day on facebook.

There is an application called Jigzone (the original site is here ) that gives you a puzzle a day to complete.

I think of puzzles as the earliest form of those mind games you can play to improve your memory and brain. Plus they are awesome!

I love Jigzone because you can even turn your own photos into a puzzle!

I a now off to do puzzles!

Here is a picture of some of the cast from the last
Murder Mystery I did with the Kamloops players!

Saturday, March 14, 2009


I just made a Pavlova from scratch

I make them a lot for parties over here because no one has ever had them before and everyone ohhs and ahhs over them. They always turn out just fine but I couldn't find the recipe so I guessed the cooking time and temp.

I knew it was an hour to cook, I knew it was about 110-140 degrees Celsius.

I'm having a dinner party tomorrow night and I haven't been feeling the best this week..... but I really like making this dessert because it comes out a real beaut if its done right! and then...


and now it just looks like a big burnt poo coloured cake

6 eggs down the drain, its 1am!!! and now I have to get up really early tomorrow to make another bloody one!

Friday, March 13, 2009


I woke up with a whopper of a headache this morning, so instead of boring you with my writing I thought I would just post some pretty pictures.

The Christmas tree from 2007 in NZ

The lounge after everything was unpacked.
I totally forgot about the Simpsons game until now,
I will have to pick that up this Christmas!

Christmas dinner at the Watermark in Devonport.

Piha surf beach 2004, inst that just beautiful!

The beach along the main drag on Russell, Northland
NZ's first capital I believe

Yours truly with my usual perfect and saintly behaviour.

I hope you enjoyed the sideshow.

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Guilty Pleasures

Do you have a guilty pleasure, something that you LOVE to do but would die of embarrassment if anyone else ever knew.

I have heaps of them, but unlike most I don't feel ashamed (have I ever?) about my tacky or crappy taste. I relish in the fact I love stuff that would make most stuff cringe.

I have horrified people on a regular basis with my taste,

I love eating veges straight from the can (beetroot or green beans) or straight cottage cheese from the pottle. They are both YUM, quick and easy!

I love 80's music. No one will ever convince me that MC Hammer and Vanilla Ice ever made a bad song Ice Ice Baby!!!

I love C grade movies, especially the made for TV ones, maybe that's why I love watching the Office (which isn't crap its Brilliant!!) because I love stuff that makes me cringe! Its like watching a train wreck, your horrified but you cant quite bring yourself to look away!

I love bad literature to. Now I've never been a trashy romance novel girl but I do LOVE badly written teen novels and who done its (and believe me there is some seriously CRAPPY mystery writers out there!), don't believe me? read (or try to) the gourmet detective series. Its based on a chef who seeks out rare ingredients and happens to solve murder mysteries on the side... gag.

Twilight is my fav guilty pleasure right now. The writing is terrible, the books are so badly written they make me gag so I can not wait to see what the movie is like. There are a few VERY funny reviews of the books online this one had me on the floor laughing until I cried, sadly because its so very accurate (theres a little bit of language in that one though).

I just cant help myself though! I know its bad for me, but smokers know smoking is bad and they still do it!

The 14 year old girl who saw Titanic 14 times is SCREAMING with excitement

The DVD comes out on the 21st March, I'll be the first in line at blockbuster to rent it, along with the tween set I suppose... ah well. If I can BE a teenager anymore I can sure as hell act like one! Oh Edward your sooooooo handsome!

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Why so defensive Sallymae?

I read a message board this morning where a woman wanted advise because her husband had thrown a tantrum because she had put his clean, folded, ironed laundry on his dresser and had not hung his shirts for him in his wardrobe. He "retaliated" by throwing his laundry all over the floor and screaming at her for not doing "her job" correctly.

On the same message board another woman posted about her husband being laid off. That sucks right!
However she was now working overtime, up to 80 hours a week to make up the financial difference and she was coming home to him laying on the couch moaning that he was hungry and when was she going to have dinner ready? When she sat down and strangled him (oh no wait she didn't, damn!) and talked to him about the fact he really needed to help out now he wasn't working. She asked if he could do his own laundry, if he could maybe cook or do the dishes he replied that he had loaded the dishwasher and what more did she want!

Now after I picked myself up off the floor, I posted a reply stating what I believed.

That a man and woman are equally responsible for a household (how they divide the chores up is their business) but that these women needed to assert themselves and point out that if they are working out side of the home, their husbands should be contributing to household cleaning/cooking etc. I pointed out that if one half of the partnership stayed at home while the other was out working then the stay at home person should be responsible for the majority of the household chores. If they BOTH worked outside the home then they should BOTH be responsible for the household chores.

I was promptly blasted by a series of women who felt the need to state that it was woman's job to look after the home and a mans job to earn the money. They told me I was putting down a stay at home mother's role and that it was in a "woman's blood to care and nurture her family".

Granted there were other woman who held the same beliefs as me, that if one person a wife is working outside the home, then the husband picks up the slack and vice versa. They stood up for my post, emphasising that it was not a womans
"job" to care for her family simply because shes is a woman. I was called naive, feminazi and that I held myself "superior", so were the other women who stood up for these two ladies and told them to stand up for themselves.

Now I use that example because that's what was discussed on the board. I am FULLY supportive of a stay at home Dad. I personally believe that both men and women are equally able to care for a child or the home. I personally do not believe in gender assigned work. Ask my Mum, I begged to mow the lawn as a kid, or to clean out the drains or to paint fences etc. I hated that it was considered "mens" work.

The strange thing was, the immense amount of anger that came from the "gender roles" side. I never once in my message put that I thought it was backward or wrong. I never desecrated the importance of the role of a Mother, or a Wife. I do believe they are hard work, that they are VERY important jobs. I believe that taking care of a household and raising children takes A LOT of tireless and thankless, day after day, effort.

What I did say was that these woman needed to give their husbands a swift kick in the pants and let them know that they were not their maids. If the wife worked all day, then there was no reason the men couldn't cook dinner and do some dishes and laundry. If the roles had been reversed the women would have been expected to, so why not the men?

Let me say this again.

Being a wife and a mother is a wonderful thing, I do not begrudge it at all! I applaud women and men who stay at home and cook and clean and raise kids you people are awesome.

Why do people get so blamed defensive if you dare to present a different lifestyle! Just because I life differently from you does not mean I am saying your lifestyle is wrong. Seriously these ladies came across as insecure, resentful and a little off balance. Mind you if you believe your husband has a right to lay on couch all day while you serve him, I think you are a little off balance! (disclaimer, if hes sick that's different and temporary!)

My point was, if Kyle ever threw a tantrum because I put his clean laundry on his bed instead of hanging it up, and tried to teach me a lesson by throwing it on the floor. I would promptly pick it all up, carry it out to our balcony and set it on fire. Problem solved.

Thank goodness Kyle would never ever do anything like that. He is an incredible hard worker both at work and in the home. I appreciate every time he does a load of towels, or cleans the bathroom or takes out the trash or cooks me a delicious meal. I do not however believe that I should be grateful because hes doing "My job". I am grateful because hes is my partner, and because he is doing his fair share. He is not doing me a favor, he is doing his part.

At the moment I am prohibited from working so I am doing the majority of the housework. NOT because I am the female of the relationship, but because I'm at home while Kyle is out working. In the past when we have both worked full time and managed to be in the same country, both of us have cooked or cleaned fairly equally. Granted I tend to cook more, and Kyle takes out the garbage, but that does not mean that we took those jobs because he is male and I am female. Kyle cooks and I take out the garbage sometimes... whatever needs doing gets done.

Kyle does his part, I do mine. When I work, he cooks and cleans. When he works I cook and clean. When we both work, both cook and hire someone to clean!

Whats so wrong with that? Well to these women apparently expecting Kyle to share in the household chores makes me a terrible woman. I couldn't imagine what they would think of my own Mother who (GASP!!!) expected my brother and I to vacuum or do our own laundry!

There is a difference between being a kind, caring and loving Mother/Wife and being an unpaid, unappreciated maid.

Why is it every time someone talks about feminism or gender equality people feel that they are putting down a SAHM or attacking their beliefs in some way.

I have ultimate respect for people who have decided to take on a traditional family structure, but I don't think its cool for those people to look down on me because my family isn't structured in the same way. Just because I want to focus on my career (when I'm finally allowed to work... I'm counting the freaking days) doesn't mean I look down on someone who takes joy and pleasure for cooking and cleaning for her family.

It does really make me angry though when people think that just because I don't think its a wife's responsibility to automatically be a maid to her family it makes her a bad person. Or that I don't understand a "womans nature"

Ohh that one really got me mad. So did the person who said "its in a womans blood" It is no more in a woman's blood than in a mans. What a huge insult to men! I would trust that if Kyle and I had children (in a FAR FAR away time) then he could care for them with as much love and ability as me.

Just because I am a woman, does not make me responsible for the cooking and the cleaning anymore than Kyle being a man makes him responsible for bring home the bacon. If thats how your family is set up, good for you! If its not good for you!

Im not arguing that its "wrong" or "old fashioned" to be a woman who cooks and cleans and stays at home. I AM arguing that its wrong and old fashioned to expect me to stay at home and cook and clean JUST because of my gender!

Do people really think its fair for a woman to work full time and then take care of the majority of the cooking and cleaning while her husband mooches on the couch for days on end?

Do people really think its okay for a husband to throw a tantrum because he had to hang up his own shirts?

I think if I had been born 100 years ago I would have been burned as a witch because I sure as hell don't think that's right!

Friday, March 6, 2009

Why I hate the phone

We went to see the lawyer on Monday, he said all was well. We signed about 60574937393 forms and I spent an hour or so describing all of my name changes, okay maybe that's a little bit of an exaggeration but that's what it felt like.

The phone rang today and I jumped it startled me so much. I happened to have a cup of coffee in my hand at the time and I then spent the next twenty minutes mopping it off the couch, the floor, the books that I kee
p on the flark and myself.

It turned out to be the lawyer asking for a piece of paper he already had, I described where it was in the folder I gave him. I HATE the phone because I never know when it will ring, it makes me so jumpy. I could be reading or napping and BRRRRRIINNNNNGGG there goes my peace and quiet. Or I could be drinking something and end up wearing it! I curse Alexander Bell!

Anyway the lawyer said everything should be sent off within the next few weeks.

Goodbye freedom!